My Sincere Question

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Why are there more young gay Asian and older Caucasian couples?

This is not just my subjective impression given that there are other people's rants about this phenomenon. (Here's a crude opinion.) There are many opinions out there but my theory is because there are more submissive gay Asian men. Older gay men mind such Asian less than younger ones, maybe. Hmmm, that's not really true, though. I have been approached by quite a few young guys too -- sometimes too young. I'd call them "Bel Ami" types, i.e., twinks who are into other twinks. I have also noticed that there are many (yes MANY!) Asian guys who are into other Asians in here Southern California. There may be more sticky rice here than Asian men who are into other ethnicities.

Regarding older white guys, some of them used to lead a straight life, e.g., married, used to date with girls, not out at all, etc., and they finally came out in their late 40's or older. Such people may find younger, boyish, submissive gays more attractive. (In this sense, more bi guys may tend to find gay Asian men attractive.) As for young gay Asian, their supply may surpass demand among the main stream gay market in the U.S. So it's natural that some of them find demand among the elderly (and some of them may be generous, and definitely being white bears some social superiority as the dominant race in the U.S.). So this phenomenon stems from pure supply and demand.... (Some question why most gay Asian date with white and other Asian. Does anyone have response to it?)

That being said, I see more diverse couples in California. In Midwest and East Coast, I saw more "traditional" older white and younger Asian couples. But in California, there are really different types of combinations. Young white/old Asian, Asian/Black, Asian/Latino, and so many Asian/Asian couples. That's why I love West Coast!